He knows how I feel about the marriage, but doesn't know about the affair.
If you would like to, please continue to revisit this thread and update. Im scared to have to start over cause to me its all about length. Therefore, a diagnosis of trichotemnomania was made. I know it's got to stop. Its really hard for me to leave it alone long enough to properly grow out but i get so insecure when its short.
It's not that I wish for long hair anymore, I just wish that I could stop this madness; it's controlled my life. Hautarzt. You mentioned your hair was 1/2 inch in some places; what about the rest of it?
I'm going to wear a hat for as long as I can stand so that I don't touch my hair. It's done....you did it, it's over with....let it go. I wore a wig for 3 years.
I've had hair to my waist twice in 25 years and ended up with a couple inches on my head when I get really obsessed. I think the same thing, just a year, and it'll be ok. I asked for a trim and she just picked up random pieces and chopped.
(When things become comfortable, I get uncomfortable, so I must create misery for myself so that I can feel comfortable being uncomfortable again.
I drives me nuts, cause I can never cut my hair even.
The therapy was FANTASTIC. Int J Trichology. Until the urge and the habit finally go away or switch to something else. I found myself cutting little pieces here and there and then thinning it.Aaawww I couldnt take it anymore there is hair touching my neck!! I already battle major depression.
I have to see my sister tomorrow; she's going to know that I cut my hair again. Please Help DepressionForums Stay on the Internet! 2012 Jan;4(1):3-18. doi: 10.4103/0974-7753.96079. It's also a perfection obsession.
nor get a hair cut ever again. It's hard for me to stay away from the clippers because not only do I have trich, but when it grows out, I am obsessed about how even it is. Stress and anxiety triggers it; my hair is 2 3/4 inches right now.
I quit cutting more than an hour ago and my heart is racing so fast. I had one of those jobs once. Copyright © 2004-2020 The Depression Forums Incorporated - A Depression & Mental Health Social Community Support Group.
Nightjar I will try to curl it or something so it looks more full and longer. What meds are you on?
| I cut my hair again. I'm hoping if I get the job, it will take up more of my time AWAY from a mirror and scissors. NLM
I have bipolar disorder type 1, which means I have manic episodes and some depressive, too.
I actually managed to grow my hair about an inch longer, but then I got stressed out and ended up cutting it 2 times within the space of 2 wks. My self esteem is *VERY* tied up in my hair and skin. I spoke to a counselor and she said that its very hard to go cold turkey with OCD and that most people tend to revert back to the ritual in times of stress/when something triggers it.
And I also got anxiety everytime I had to see someone after a cutting episode because of the whole "you got your hair cut AGAIN comments"...or colored it AGAIN....(I also color it alot). I couldn't handle mirrors. I keep looking at old photos when my hair was shoulder length and really want it to look like that again. Ectoparasite defence in humans: relationships to pathogen avoidance and clinical implications.
I just can't stand the thought of my hair not being "even".
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Anyway. I look ridiculous.
Followers 0. I don't do the hair-cutting thing, but I recognise a lot of what you describe - the frustration, the stomach-churning anxiety, the need to get it right and most of all how out-of-control and foolish it can make you feel. It's okay to be embarrassed but don't isolate...reach out for support to others. :o). I hope this helps you.
The cutting started getting really bad; I stopped Humira.
I urge you to read it and then let me know what you think. I really don't want to go any shorter than 2 1/2 inches. You are tough. She's probably thinking 'why does this woman keep coming in for cuts? I am now studying the jagged edges of what I ruined, by attempting to cut my bangs straight across. I left my job of six years that I LOVED and DID SO WELL AT because of personal reasons with the boss (NEVER GO THERE!)
It wasn't perfect and it was stressing me out.
I'm sure you can! If nothing else, at least you won't be alone in this. I don't do the hair-cutting thing, but I recognise a lot of what you describe - the frustration, the stomach-churning anxiety, the need to get it right and most of all how out-of-control and foolish it can make you feel.
Recognize and be aware of your thoughts and when a negative one has creeped in...immediately tackle it and say NO!
I knew I should have never gone to that new salon because my hair was perfect before that when my regular stylist cut it. I didn't want my therapist to think I was crazy. I've had hair to my waist twice in 25 years and ended up with a couple inches on my head when I get really obsessed.
I have managed to hold down the same job for 3 yrs. I, too, have used the latter two to make those desperate cuts that will "fix it". better to leave right away than wait a week and make them have to retrain someone, though. My husband is so tired of it as are my kids.
It's easier than dealing with the REAL issue or issues, whatever they may be. So, before I know it, I will cut and cut and cut until I am dang near bald. I"m not kidding. This post has been thanked 1 time.
It really helps to talk to others who do this. Even though she only took the tiniest bit off the ends it still looks shorter. I had a period of a few years where obviously I hadn't had any triggers--and then I had one and it started all over again. I've had this approx. I am going to try really hard to start the new month off without cutting my hair. If you'd like to e-mail for support each day, please feel free. I'm going to a temp agency today at 11:00. I am so depressed I had to quit my job and have got into the bad habit of staying up late at night until 2am and then sleeping all day and getting up at 1 in the afternoon. How short is yours?? I couldn't stop measuring and cutting today; I forgot how many times I threw away the scissors , just to pick them back up and cut some more. my hair is less than 1/2 inch on sides and in the back...i have a little bit of length 2-3 inches in the front (bangs)..but the sides are almost buzzed.
I don't know what to do with it afterward and I just end up looking in the mirror thinking how bad it looks and that makes me even more depressed. It's like i was out of my body or something and cutting on a subconscious level. I just called the owner and told him the bad news. One day...baby steps. We should report to one another if you want to each day to let one another know how we've either progressed or back slid at the end of the day. Let's talk and see if we can help each other in some small way. I'm not doing well. this way, we can be a little more accountable for our actions...lol.
everytime I cut it gets worse but yet I persist, trying to get my hair even.
I can't tell you how much those other two links you supplied meant to me to be able to read even more posts about people just like us. Anyway.
Well, sad to say, it's way shorter now that it was in February. So for a year I felt like I was on cloud 9 and after the "split", it was so difficult to go there everyday, see him, and not be able to be like we were.
I try and deal with life on Shannon's terms not life's terms. I didn't have the urge to cut it even though I was feeling so awful today. I have been obsessed with cutting my hair for over 20 years now, since my early twenties. Thanks for keeping in touch so often. Thanks for replying.